Mental health dating is so important
Mental health dating is so important in the recovery process. Learning how to date with a mental health concern can be scary but getting past it is so worth it. My name is Tim and I have 25 years experience helping people find their dreams.
If you’re depressed, dating can magnify some of your challenges, such as fatigue, irritability, low self-esteem, and reduced libido. The best way to stay strong. Seek treatment, if you haven’t already.
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Here are three general rules for mental health dating.
Mental health dating rule # 1 Don’t tell on the first date
You don’t owe it to the person to discuss your depression on a first date.
If things become more serious, however, you should tell your potential partner. A good time might be when you decide to see each other exclusively.
How to talk about it your mental health
When you feel the time is right a three-part “script.” First, tell them that they are important to you, enough so that you have something about yourself to share with them. Second, don’t just blurt out “I suffer from a mental health concern.” Instead, preface it by telling them there’s something you’ve struggled with a mental health issue and that’s a fairly common problem. And finally, tell them you care!
Mental health dating rule # 2 Accept assistance
In addition to surrounding yourself with the support of friends and family let potential partners know how they can help you.
For example, if you exercise regularly to help lift your mood, ask your partner to join you.
Telling them about the challenges you face or going to couples counselling can also be helpful.
Mental health dating rule # 3 Be patient
If your partner asks questions or offers advice, recognize the good intent behind the words.
For example, men often feel that it’s their job to make their partner happy. Understand their desire to help.